Stop Bullying

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You have no idea how i feel right now. This is not the kind of stuff i go around shouting about. Yeah, this is a total off-topic thread, taking advantage over the Space Bar section. I feel comfortable enough here as to tell you my story, so before i tell you what i actually want to, i'll explain to you what i've lived. I'm not using bolds, nor adding any kind of picture. I want this to be a raw as i need it to be.

Since i was 8 years old, i've lived together with a variety of tics (unwanted moves or sounds you can't control) that would appear anytime, anywhere. As to be expected, that seemed to be a good reason for kids to pick on me on school, and i had literally no friends. People would look at me as a "weirdo" when all i had was some strange moves or sounds. They'd make fun of me, put me names, laugh at me or even fight me. Secondary school was the worst time of my life. To give you guys an idea, i planned several times to end my life. You seriously have no idea how bullying can affect you. I really don't know if you ever suffered it, or if you ever practiced it, or if you have a friend that did. I did not want to go to school, i did not want to see anyone of school at any public space. I prayed every night so i didn't found one of them at the movies, or at a soccer match, they'd make fun of me. School time was a real pain: nobody sat with me, everybody threw me stuff, nobody wanted to be my sports partner. Oh dear how could i dare even talk to one of the popular guys, i'd get insulted for even doing so. Imagine, the class' weirdest boy talking to the kid who all the girls where in love with. I was depressed, i had nobody to talk to. I passed through secondary school with a single idea on my mind: finish it. Finish secondary school and finally quit seeing them, quit suffering, begin a "new life".

Luckily, for me, at my 4th year in secondary school i started boxing, and grew up some nice muscles. Yeah, imagine. They never bothered me again. As you may know, bullies are cowards.

The whole point of this thread, and taking advantage we have an off-topic section, is to warn you guys. You must know. If you do nothing, you're part of it. If you ever see a partner under any kind of bullying situation, school, work, sports, please use your voice. Don't let anybody practice any kind of bullying to somebody. If you're a parent, a grandparent, please talk to your kids. In most cases, even mine, kids won't go talk to their parents about it, because they feel ashamed. And the first times they'll lie about it. Insist, help is a must on this situations. If you're a teacher, talk to your students. And if you're bullied, put a stop to it. Talk to somebody than can actually mark a difference. Talk to somebody that can actually give you an answer. Tell your parents, tell a friend, learn a combat sport. It's not too late to solve things. Don't let anybody ruin your moment. You're at school to learn, you're at soccer to play, you're at work to work. Anything that disturbs you must be reported. Don't let anybody step over you. I know there are people on my situation, where i've been. Please, don't stay quiet. Do it for yourself, and do it for everyone who's still troubled about it. Bullying ruined my childhood, and nobody, seriously nobody should live through it. End it now.

I'm leaving you with my signature quote, that represents everything i believe in:

“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.” ― Dan Pearce


You can always feel free to share a story or comment.
 
I was bullied and still am due to my short height. I try to be fair with others regardless of their race or religion but I have been attacked for doing so. Its sad that people sometimes laugh and say bullying isn't real and your overreacting. I feel you man and glad things are starting to work out for you.
 
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I'm going to get a bit philosophical here, but it's genuinely my opinion on the subject. This whole bullying thing, in my personal opinion, springs from a general dissatisfaction in the status quo of how the world is moving forward politically, economically, and to a certain degree -- culturally. It starts with the parents, who, at no fault of their own (not in all cases), are screwed over by the system. As a result, marriages are crippled, the parents take it out on their kids, and then the kids take their frustrations to class. This isn't the place to discuss politics, but I genuinely feel like that is the root cause of the problem. Hashtags = illusion of change, ACTION = real change. I"ll leave it at that.
 
Sometimes it also has it's place to have a serious talk with the kid that gets bullied, I dealt a few some years ago who reacted in ways that didn't help themselves.
Most of these kids come from homes whit crippled marriages (like Noxx pointed out), so those kids also needed some guidance with working out their frustrations.

At the place I work at now I have a dual job as IT technician/administrator and pedagogue assistant for disabled children, so I see quite a lot of tics and more extreme behaviours, bullying is not tolerated at all.
I could make more by working with the IT that my education covers, but money isn't everything. ;)
 
Whilst I was at high school 1995-2000 I was severely bullied for being gay, the police were involved is several cases. I hated school, I left without a single qualification, afterwards I retook my exams, did my A-levels and now I'm a doctor; I think their behavior drove to me not stop, and prove them wrong. I still see some in town, most are in dead-end jobs and I laugh, oh well justice does come to those who wait. Please keep going, and involve as many people as possible, police, social services etc., to deal with it, don't let them win.
 
Probably the best advice I ever received came from 20 year old hired man helping my father with the heavier farm work my mom couldn't handle with 3 small boys. When I started kindergarten I was naive to the point of sad being the oldest. I was really having a tough time to the point of crying myself to sleep at night. Never had I seen or been treated like this. One evening doing chores he pulled me aside and told me that this was something wasn't going away till I learned to deal with it and nobody could do it for me. He also told me I would do 100 times more damage with my mouth,in my lifetime than I would ever do with my fists. A man can forgive for you for breaking his nose especially if he knows he had it coming , but you can say things that can't be forgot. He was the smartest man I think I ever met and I have raised 7 kids repeating what he taught me. I'm 60 years old and still see people bullied and intimidated every day. I isn't going to go away ever no law is going to protect from it. It is a demon that has to be faced and conquered from within. Is it right? Not by a long shot but it is far from new and one of life's lessons.
 
I'm really proud of everyone of you guys. I think, without you even knowing me, you've shared with me experiences and advices i've never been said until now. I really can't thank you enough for everything said up here. The best i can do, from my position, is trying to help those kids who are still troubled with what i've learn back on those years, and what i've learnt right here. You all are wonderful people.
 
I'm pretty young and I know what is bullying: it doesn't look anyone on face.
Many times a look or a word can do more harm than a fist.
Each story is a world, but at the base of everything I think that often there is an incomprehensible underestimation of this problem.
 
" Love your enemies"

Why I said that? Because those people who bullied to us are just surrounded of peer pressure and poor thinking/understanding which why they feel like bossy.

Better to pray them and a time will come for them to change.

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I'm also a victim of bullying (including cyber bullying) and as I continuously grow up; matured thinking and realizing to ignore their harmful words will just ease the situation.

The problem for us where our emotional is affected too much, so we must prevent any such cases.
 
I'm a little different I was on the other side of the fence. I was really a big kid growing up. When I was 11, I took size 11 shoes. I was the strongest in the school. Well one day at school I picked on this kid just before lunch and my teacher caught me. This was grade 5. There was only 1 male teacher in the school and I had him. Well he grabbed a hold of me dragged me back to the class room and made me stand on 1 foot for it felt like eternity but he said 30 min. and every time I put my other foot down he whacked me on the ass with his yard stick. I'll tell you that sure straightened me out in a hurry. No more bullying for this kid. I think a lot of the problem with the kids today is all the authority has been taken away. My son has tic like symptoms to, so I know where your coming from Morvotron. He has the spasms and the outburst he's 35 now, has a good steady job, he's doing really well.
 
here in my country began to be issued on television a program called: "if it were you?". It addresses different issues, such as bullying, obesity, homosexuality, the difference in general ...
I have to say that this program is a success in the Portuguese television and with huge repercussions on social networks.

... never understood why people say and do bad things to others, maybe this kind of people have a horrifically life?