The “I Have To Share Bad News With You” Email Scam: Everything You Need to Know
Written by: Thomas Orsolya
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It starts with a jarring subject line — “I have to share bad news with you.” Your heart skips a beat. As you read, panic sets in. The email claims your device has been hacked, your private activities have been recorded, and unless you pay up in Bitcoin, those secrets will be shared with the world.
But is it real?
This article will break down exactly what’s going on, how the scam works in detail, what to do if you’ve received or fallen victim to one of these emails, and how to stay safe in the future.
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The Rise of the “I Have To Share Bad News With You” Email
The “I Have To Share Bad News With You” email is a modern form of sextortion — a psychological blackmail tactic designed to extract money by preying on fear, shame, and urgency.
What the Scam Looks Like
The message usually comes with a threatening subject like:
“Payment from your account”
“I have access to your device”
“You have 48 hours to comply”
Inside the email, the scammer outlines a disturbing narrative. They claim to have:
Hacked your email account.
Installed malware or a Trojan virus.
Gained control of your webcam and microphone.
Recorded you in compromising situations (usually on adult websites).
Collected your browsing history, contacts, and private data.
The email ends with a ransom demand — often around $950 in Bitcoin — with threats to publicly release the alleged video footage if payment isn’t made within 48 hours.
Let’s be clear: this is a scam.
Here is how the scam email might look:
Greetings!
I have to share bad news with you. Approximately few months ago I have gained access to your devices, which you use for internet browsing. After that, I have started tracking your internet activities.
Here is the sequence of events: Some time ago I have purchased access to email accounts from hackers (nowadays, it is quite simple to purchase such thing online). Obviously, I have easily managed to log in to your email account
One week later, I have already installed Trojan virus to Operating Systems of all the devices that you use to access your email. In fact, it was not really hard at all (since you were following the links from your inbox emails). All ingenious is simple. =)
This software provides me with access to all the controllers of your devices (e.g., your microphone, video camera and keyboard). I have downloaded all your information, data, photos, web browsing history to my servers. I have access to all your messengers, social networks, emails, chat history and contacts list. My virus continuously refreshes the signatures (it is driver-based), and hence remains invisible for antivirus software.
Likewise, I guess by now you understand why I have stayed undetected until this letter…
While gathering information about you, I have discovered that you are a big fan of adult websites. You really love visiting porn websites and watching exciting videos, while enduring an enormous amount of pleasure. Well, I have managed to record a number of your dirty scenes and montaged a few videos, which show the way you masturbate and reach orgasms.
If you have doubts, I can make a few clicks of my mouse and all your videos will be shared to your friends, colleagues and relatives. I have also no issue at all to make them available for public access. I guess, you really don’t want that to happen, considering the specificity of the videos you like to watch, (you perfectly know what I mean) it will cause a true catastrophe for you.
Let’s settle it this way: You transfer $950 USD to me (in bitcoin equivalent according to the exchange rate at the moment of funds transfer), and once the transfer is received, I will delete all this dirty stuff right away. After that we will forget about each other. I also promise to deactivate and delete all the harmful software from your devices. Trust me, I keep my word.
This is a fair deal and the price is quite low, considering that I have been checking out your profile and traffic for some time by now. In case, if you don’t know how to purchase and transfer the bitcoins – you can use any modern search engine.
Here is my bitcoin wallet: 1L6XxPRuLJdr6JCqw8dwNUm1wFLisrGREL, 1LKWDMofCWVgDSUH3Qoui6LxJ2VSUtsDCE, 1xPr18gM8YKsaiUkGz9MgpjtwcBQcME2i, 16aqr3rXxCtxa8AK3ErftnBQLfzyyhjpXJ, 1Hjpu99iHc3oi55ZJKf6RHhKbwit8vEzTS
You have less than 48 hours from the moment you opened this email (precisely 2 days).
Things you need to avoid from doing: *Do not reply me (I have created this email inside your inbox and generated the return address). *Do not try to contact police and other security services. In addition, forget about telling this to you friends. If I discover that (as you can see, it is really not so hard, considering that I control all your systems) – your video will be shared to public right away. *Don’t try to find me – it is absolutely pointless. All the cryptocurrency transactions are anonymous. *Don’t try to reinstall the OS on your devices or throw them away. It is pointless as well, since all the videos have already been saved at remote servers.
Things you don’t need to worry about: *That I won’t be able to receive your funds transfer. – Don’t worry, I will see it right away, once you complete the transfer, since I continuously track all your activities (my trojan virus has got a remote-control feature, something like TeamViewer). *That I will share your videos anyway after you complete the funds transfer. – Trust me, I have no point to continue creating troubles in your life. If I really wanted that, I would do it long time ago!
Everything will be done in a fair manner!
One more thing… Don’t get caught in similar kind of situations anymore in future! My advice – keep changing all your passwords on a frequent basis
No Real Hack Took Place
These emails are sent out in bulk by cybercriminals. The vast majority of recipients have not been hacked. There’s no virus. No video. No backdoor access.
The attackers are relying on fear and emotional manipulation — not actual technical prowess.
A Psychological Trap
What makes the scam so effective is its calculated use of:
Fear: Threats of exposure tap into primal emotions.
Shame: Adult content is stigmatized; people fear being judged.
Urgency: The 48-hour deadline creates panic and clouded thinking.
Isolation: Victims are warned not to tell anyone or contact authorities.
It’s blackmail without proof — but the psychology can be powerful enough to make people pay.
How the Scam Works
Let’s dig deeper into the mechanics behind the “I Have To Share Bad News With You” email scam.
Step 1: Massive Email Harvesting
Scammers begin by obtaining a large database of email addresses. These can come from:
Data breaches (Yahoo, LinkedIn, etc.).
Leaked credentials on the dark web.
Public or poorly protected databases.
Some of these lists include plaintext passwords, which adds a disturbing level of realism when scammers mention an old or real password in the email.
Step 2: Automated Email Distribution
Using spam-sending software or botnets, the scammer sends out millions of emails. The message is often identical, but the email address and sometimes the name or password are auto-inserted to make it feel personalized.
The subject lines are designed to:
Grab attention
Create fear
Avoid spam filters
Examples include:
“Your computer was hacked”
“Urgent warning”
“I recorded you”
Step 3: False Claims of Malware and Video Evidence
The core of the scam is the fabricated story:
A Trojan was installed on your system.
The attacker accessed your webcam and microphone.
You were caught watching explicit material.
They compiled embarrassing videos.
It’s all lies.
There is no malware, no surveillance, and no videos. The scammers are banking on the possibility that:
You’ve visited adult websites at some point.
You might believe it’s possible you were recorded.
You’re too afraid to ask for help.
Step 4: Demand for Bitcoin Payment
The scammer demands payment to a Bitcoin wallet, often giving multiple addresses. Cryptocurrency is used because it is:
Pseudonymous
Hard to trace
Irreversible once sent
The email typically includes lines like:
“Once the transfer is received, I will delete all this dirty stuff right away.”
But of course, even if someone pays, there’s no guarantee the threats will stop.
Step 5: Watch and Wait
After the emails are sent, scammers monitor the wallets. If someone pays, they might mark the address as “paid” and move on, or worse — target them again with more threats.
Some scammers even sell “gullible victim” lists to others, ensuring a victim gets bombarded with additional scams.
What to Do If You’ve Received This Email
The most important thing to remember: don’t panic. If you’ve received this email but haven’t paid, here’s what to do:
1. Do Not Respond
Never reply to the scammer. Engaging only confirms that your email address is active and monitored.
2. Do Not Pay
There is no video. This is a bluff. Paying only feeds the scam industry and could make you a repeat target.
3. Change Your Passwords Immediately
If the email includes a real password you’ve used before, change it right away — especially if you still use it anywhere else.
Focus on:
Email accounts
Banking logins
Social media platforms
Use a strong, unique password for each account and enable two-factor authentication wherever possible.
4. Scan Your Devices
Even though most of these threats are fake, it’s good practice to run a full malware and antivirus scan:
Use a reputable tool like Malwarebytes, Norton, or Bitdefender.
Update your OS and software to patch known vulnerabilities.
Tell your friends, family, or coworkers. These scams thrive in silence. Spreading awareness reduces the scam’s effectiveness.
What to Do If You’ve Already Paid
If you sent Bitcoin to the scammer, you’re likely feeling helpless. Here’s what you can do:
1. Save All Evidence
Keep the email with full headers.
Note the Bitcoin wallet addresses used.
Screenshot your Bitcoin transaction.
This documentation is important for law enforcement.
2. Report Immediately
Contact your local cybercrime unit or file a report through one of these portals:
IC3.gov (FBI)
Europol (Europe)
ActionFraud (UK)
CyberTip.ca (Canada)
While recovery is unlikely, reports help track scam operations and shut down wallet activity.
3. Consider Identity Theft Protection
If a real password was leaked, your information may be floating on the dark web. It’s worth:
Monitoring your credit
Freezing your credit reports
Signing up for identity protection services like LifeLock, Aura, or IdentityForce
4. Increase Your Digital Hygiene
This is your wake-up call to secure your digital footprint. Immediately:
Update all major passwords
Use a password manager (e.g., Bitwarden, 1Password)
Turn on 2FA across all accounts
Audit which websites or apps have access to your email
Is Your Device Infected? Check for Malware
If your device is running slowly or acting suspicious, it may be infected with malware. Malwarebytes Anti-Malware Free is a great option for scanning your device and detecting potential malware or viruses. The free version can efficiently check for and remove many common infections.
Malwarebytes can run on Windows, Mac, and Android devices. Depending on which operating system is installed on the device you’re trying to run a Malwarebytes scan, please click on the tab below and follow the displayed steps.
Malwarebytes For WindowsMalwarebytes For MacMalwarebytes For Android
Scan your computer with Malwarebytes for Windows to remove malware
Malwarebytes stands out as one of the leading and widely-used anti-malware solutions for Windows, and for good reason. It effectively eradicates various types of malware that other programs often overlook, all at no cost to you. When it comes to disinfecting an infected device, Malwarebytes has consistently been a free and indispensable tool in the battle against malware. We highly recommend it for maintaining a clean and secure system.
Download Malwarebytes for Windows
You can download Malwarebytes by clicking the link below.
After the download is complete, locate the MBSetup file, typically found in your Downloads folder. Double-click on the MBSetup file to begin the installation of Malwarebytes on your computer. If a User Account Control pop-up appears, click “Yes” to continue the Malwarebytes installation.
Follow the On-Screen Prompts to Install Malwarebytes
When the Malwarebytes installation begins, the setup wizard will guide you through the process.
You’ll first be prompted to choose the type of computer you’re installing the program on—select either “Personal Computer” or “Work Computer” as appropriate, then click on Next.
Malwarebytes will now begin the installation process on your device.
When the Malwarebytes installation is complete, the program will automatically open to the “Welcome to Malwarebytes” screen.
On the final screen, simply click on the Open Malwarebytes option to start the program.
Enable “Rootkit scanning”.
Malwarebytes Anti-Malware will now start, and you will see the main screen as shown below. To maximize Malwarebytes’ ability to detect malware and unwanted programs, we need to enable rootkit scanning. Click on the “Settings” gear icon located on the left of the screen to access the general settings section.
In the settings menu, enable the “Scan for rootkits” option by clicking the toggle switch until it turns blue.
Now that you have enabled rootkit scanning, click on the “Dashboard” button in the left pane to get back to the main screen.
Perform a Scan with Malwarebytes.
To start a scan, click the Scan button. Malwarebytes will automatically update its antivirus database and begin scanning your computer for malicious programs.
Wait for the Malwarebytes scan to complete.
Malwarebytes will now scan your computer for browser hijackers and other malicious programs. This process can take a few minutes, so we suggest you do something else and periodically check the status of the scan to see when it is finished.
Quarantine detected malware
Once the Malwarebytes scan is complete, it will display a list of detected malware, adware, and potentially unwanted programs. To effectively remove these threats, click the “Quarantine” button.
Malwarebytes will now delete all of the files and registry keys and add them to the program’s quarantine.
Restart your computer.
When removing files, Malwarebytes may require a reboot to fully eliminate some threats. If you see a message indicating that a reboot is needed, please allow it. Once your computer has restarted and you are logged back in, you can continue with the remaining steps.
Your computer should now be free of trojans, adware, browser hijackers, and other malware.
If your current antivirus allowed this malicious program on your computer, you may want to consider purchasing Malwarebytes Premium to protect against these types of threats in the future. If you are still having problems with your computer after completing these instructions, then please follow one of the steps:
Scan your computer with Malwarebytes for Mac to remove malware
Malwarebytes for Mac is an on-demand scanner that can destroy many types of malware that other software tends to miss without costing you absolutely anything. When it comes to cleaning up an infected device, Malwarebytes has always been free, and we recommend it as an essential tool in the fight against malware.
Download Malwarebytes for Mac.
You can download Malwarebytes for Mac by clicking the link below.
When Malwarebytes has finished downloading, double-click on the setup file to install Malwarebytes on your computer. In most cases, downloaded files are saved to the Downloads folder.
Follow the on-screen prompts to install Malwarebytes.
When the Malwarebytes installation begins, you will see the Malwarebytes for Mac Installer which will guide you through the installation process. Click “Continue“, then keep following the prompts to continue with the installation process.
When your Malwarebytes installation completes, the program opens to the Welcome to Malwarebytes screen. Click the “Get started” button.
Select “Personal Computer” or “Work Computer”.
The Malwarebytes Welcome screen will first ask you what type of computer are you installing this program, click either Personal Computer or Work Computer.
Click on “Scan”.
To scan your computer with Malwarebytes, click on the “Scan” button. Malwarebytes for Mac will automatically update the antivirus database and start scanning your computer for malware.
Wait for the Malwarebytes scan to complete.
Malwarebytes will scan your computer for adware, browser hijackers, and other malicious programs. This process can take a few minutes, so we suggest you do something else and periodically check on the status of the scan to see when it is finished.
Click on “Quarantine”.
When the scan has been completed, you will be presented with a screen showing the malware infections that Malwarebytes has detected. To remove the malware that Malwarebytes has found, click on the “Quarantine” button.
Restart computer.
Malwarebytes will now remove all the malicious files that it has found. To complete the malware removal process, Malwarebytes may ask you to restart your computer.
Your Mac should now be free of adware, browser hijackers, and other malware.
If your current antivirus allowed a malicious program on your computer, you might want to consider purchasing the full-featured version of Malwarebytes Anti-Malware to protect against these types of threats in the future. If you are still experiencing problems while trying to remove a malicious program from your computer, please ask for help in our Mac Malware Removal Help & Support forum.
Scan your phone with Malwarebytes for Android to remove malware
Malwarebytes for Android automatically detects and removes dangerous threats like malware and ransomware so you don’t have to worry about your most-used device being compromised. Aggressive detection of adware and potentially unwanted programs keeps your Android phone or tablet running smooth.
Download Malwarebytes for Android.
You can download Malwarebytes for Android by clicking the link below.
In the Google Play Store, tap “Install” to install Malwarebytes for Android on your device.
When the installation process has finished, tap “Open” to begin using Malwarebytes for Android. You can also open Malwarebytes by tapping on its icon in your phone menu or home screen.
Follow the on-screen prompts to complete the setup process
When Malwarebytes will open, you will see the Malwarebytes Setup Wizard which will guide you through a series of permissions and other setup options. This is the first of two screens that explain the difference between the Premium and Free versions. Swipe this screen to continue. Tap on “Got it” to proceed to the next step. Malwarebytes for Android will now ask for a set of permissions that are required to scan your device and protect it from malware. Tap on “Give permission” to continue. Tap on “Allow” to permit Malwarebytes to access the files on your phone.
Update database and run a scan with Malwarebytes for Android
You will now be prompted to update the Malwarebytes database and run a full system scan.
Click on “Update database” to update the Malwarebytes for Android definitions to the latest version, then click on “Run full scan” to perform a system scan.
Wait for the Malwarebytes scan to complete.
Malwarebytes will now start scanning your phone for adware and other malicious apps. This process can take a few minutes, so we suggest you do something else and periodically check on the status of the scan to see when it is finished.
Click on “Remove Selected”.
When the scan has been completed, you will be presented with a screen showing the malware infections that Malwarebytes for Android has detected. To remove the malicious apps that Malwarebytes has found, tap on the “Remove Selected” button.
Restart your phone.
Malwarebytes for Android will now remove all the malicious apps that it has found. To complete the malware removal process, Malwarebytes may ask you to restart your device.
Your phone should now be free of adware, browser hijackers, and other malware.
If your current antivirus allowed a malicious app on your phone, you may want to consider purchasing the full-featured version of Malwarebytes to protect against these types of threats in the future. If you are still having problems with your phone after completing these instructions, then please follow one of the steps:
Restore your phone to factory settings by going to Settings > General management > Reset > Factory data reset.
What is the “I Have To Share Bad News With You” email scam?
It’s a widespread email-based sextortion scam. The message claims the sender has hacked your device, recorded you via your webcam during private activity (typically while viewing adult websites), and threatens to release the footage unless you pay a ransom in Bitcoin. In reality, these threats are false and no actual hacking or recording has occurred.
Is this email real? Was I really hacked?
No, the email is not legitimate. It is part of a scam designed to manipulate your emotions through fear and shame. In most cases, there has been no hacking, no malware installed, and no webcam access. The scammer is bluffing.
Why does the email mention one of my passwords?
Scammers often use old or leaked passwords from past data breaches to make their threats seem more credible. If the email includes a password you recognize, it likely came from a compromised website database that was made public or sold on the dark web. It does not mean your computer has been hacked.
What should I do if I receive this email?
Do not respond, do not send money, and do not panic. Instead:
Change any passwords that were mentioned or are weak/reused.
Run a security scan on your device.
Report the scam to appropriate authorities.
Inform others so they don’t fall victim.
Should I pay the ransom?
Absolutely not. Paying the scammer won’t protect you because there is no actual video or hack. In fact, paying may make you a target for more scams in the future, as you’ve now proven you can be manipulated.
Can the scammer really access my webcam or files?
In almost all cases, no. These emails are sent in mass batches and are not based on real hacking activity. There’s no evidence they’ve installed malware or accessed your camera. They are hoping you’ll believe the story and act out of fear.
How did they get my email address?
Your email address may have been exposed in a past data breach. Attackers often compile email lists from:
Leaked or stolen databases
Public records
Purchased mailing lists
If you’re unsure whether your data has been exposed, you can check on websites like HaveIBeenPwned.com.
Is there malware on my device?
Typically, no. These emails are bluffs. However, it’s still a good idea to scan your device using a trusted antivirus or anti-malware tool to ensure your system is clean.
How do I check if a Bitcoin wallet has been used in scams before?
You can use public blockchain explorer websites like Blockchain.com or tools like BitcoinAbuse.com to check if a wallet has been reported in scams. Paste the address into the search to see its history and reported activity.
What happens if I ignore the email?
Nothing. This is the best course of action. The scammer will move on to other targets if they don’t get a response or payment. You will not be harmed, and no videos will be released because they don’t exist.
What if I already sent the money? Can I get it back?
Unfortunately, no. Bitcoin transactions are irreversible. Once sent, the funds are gone. You should:
Report the incident to law enforcement or a cybercrime agency.
Save all email communications and transaction data.
Take steps to protect your identity and secure your accounts.
Is it possible this is a targeted attack against me personally?
No, these emails are not personalized or targeted. They are part of a mass scam campaign designed to look personal. The same email has been sent to thousands or even millions of people.
What should I do if I’m still worried or anxious?
It’s completely normal to feel anxious after receiving a threatening email. But remember, the power of this scam lies in emotional manipulation, not real evidence. If you need extra reassurance:
Talk to a trusted friend or family member.
Contact a local cybersecurity support service or helpline.
Read public advisories from your country’s fraud prevention agencies.
How can I protect myself from scams like this in the future?
To reduce your chances of being targeted or falling for future scams:
Also consider forwarding the scam email to reportphishing@apwg.org, an international anti-phishing organization.
The Bottom Line
The “I Have To Share Bad News With You” email is a classic sextortion scam designed to exploit fear and shame. It’s emotionally manipulative, technologically unsophisticated, but psychologically effective.
Don’t fall for it.
If you receive the email, don’t panic, don’t pay, and don’t respond. Just take simple steps to secure your information, report the incident, and educate others.
Cybercriminals rely on secrecy and silence to thrive. The best defense is knowledge, preparation, and speaking up.
How to Stay Safe Online
Here are 10 basic security tips to help you avoid malware and protect your device:
Use a good antivirus and keep it up-to-date.
It's essential to use a good quality antivirus and keep it up-to-date to stay ahead of the latest cyber threats. We are huge fans of Malwarebytes Premium and use it on all of our devices, including Windows and Mac computers as well as our mobile devices. Malwarebytes sits beside your traditional antivirus, filling in any gaps in its defenses, and providing extra protection against sneakier security threats.
Keep software and operating systems up-to-date.
Keep your operating system and apps up to date. Whenever an update is released for your device, download and install it right away. These updates often include security fixes, vulnerability patches, and other necessary maintenance.
Be careful when installing programs and apps.
Pay close attention to installation screens and license agreements when installing software. Custom or advanced installation options will often disclose any third-party software that is also being installed. Take great care in every stage of the process and make sure you know what it is you're agreeing to before you click "Next."
Install an ad blocker.
Use a browser-based content blocker, like AdGuard. Content blockers help stop malicious ads, Trojans, phishing, and other undesirable content that an antivirus product alone may not stop.
Be careful what you download.
A top goal of cybercriminals is to trick you into downloading malware—programs or apps that carry malware or try to steal information. This malware can be disguised as an app: anything from a popular game to something that checks traffic or the weather.
Be alert for people trying to trick you.
Whether it's your email, phone, messenger, or other applications, always be alert and on guard for someone trying to trick you into clicking on links or replying to messages. Remember that it's easy to spoof phone numbers, so a familiar name or number doesn't make messages more trustworthy.
Back up your data.
Back up your data frequently and check that your backup data can be restored. You can do this manually on an external HDD/USB stick, or automatically using backup software. This is also the best way to counter ransomware. Never connect the backup drive to a computer if you suspect that the computer is infected with malware.
Choose strong passwords.
Use strong and unique passwords for each of your accounts. Avoid using personal information or easily guessable words in your passwords. Enable two-factor authentication (2FA) on your accounts whenever possible.
Be careful where you click.
Be cautious when clicking on links or downloading attachments from unknown sources. These could potentially contain malware or phishing scams.
Don't use pirated software.
Avoid using Peer-to-Peer (P2P) file-sharing programs, keygens, cracks, and other pirated software that can often compromise your data, privacy, or both.
To avoid potential dangers on the internet, it's important to follow these 10 basic safety rules. By doing so, you can protect yourself from many of the unpleasant surprises that can arise when using the web.
Thomas is an expert at uncovering scams and providing in-depth reporting on cyber threats and online fraud. As an editor, he is dedicated to keeping readers informed on the latest developments in cybersecurity and tech.
