You are literally the perfect example as a paranoid person lacking of knowledge about security. But it's not your fault due to large amount of misinformation on the web. No offense!
I was exactly the same as you when I was a kid. I changed antivirus software on weekly/monthly basis because as soon as I read test reports showing one is the better than the other, I uninstalled the current AV and installed another product.
This all had consequences on my PC as it was becoming unstable and slow. After doing so for a long time, I found myself reinstalling Windows almost every year not knowing what the problem was. And then, one experienced system administrator from the local IT forum opened my eyes and showing me what the mistake was.
It was exactly this what we're talking about—constant uninstallation/installation of software, especially antivirus software. You think that after you click uninstall, the software simply goes away in its entirety. It doesn't! Not even with Revo, or the uninstall tool provided by the antivirus company. Antivirus messes with system files on kernel level in order to work. When you install one, there's no going back as system files were already modified. They also install bunch of drivers which can be removed, but most simply leave them because doing a driver removal or change can make system very unstable.
Every time you install new antivirus software you're, simply said, damaging your OS and as time goes by, marks will become visible more and more. I was originally rejecting idea of that system administator and now I'm thankful to him and not afraid to acknowledge I was wrong.
No software is impenetrable, that's correct. But I assure you, Defender is less penetrable than you think. If it was so easily penetrable, we'd see billions of hacked PCs by now and we're not seeing that.
I don't know what you do with your PC but malware doesn't come on your own
Hackers don't attack PCs by randomlyn selected order. None of it works this way. The only to get infected is by you infecting PC yourself. The only way to get hacked is by opening your PC to hackers.
Regarding CrowdStrike crashes, again, crash was caused by CrowdStrike software, not by Windows. If Windows was to blame, then all of PCs would crash, but they didn't. All PCs using other antivirus software, including Defender kept functioning normally.
If Microsoft was using CrowdStrike on their servers, half of the web would be down and you couldn't use Microsoft services at all which certainly wasn't the case. Nothing you say is valid and you're only giving me and other members of the forum exactly examples of what not to do.
Just do youself a favor and ask Gemini, ChatGPT, Claude or in fact any AI about what I told you, and you'll see for yourself. Maybe
@Bot can answer you here whether changing antivirus software often is good or bad idea?